shutterstock_209477662.jpgThe Supreme Courts June 26 decision permitting same-sex marriages nationwide will likely mean an early flurry of couples tying the knot after having waited many years for the chance.

But it might be a good idea for some couples to put the ceremonies and celebrations on hold long enough to get their financial affairs in order. I’m not trying to put a damper on the idea of a lifetime of wedded bliss. However, along with a range of new benefits, rights and protections previously afforded only to heterosexual couples, the ruling also means new responsibilities and obligations.

I have been helping lesbian and gay couples in Hoboken and Hudson County manage their legal and financial affairs since New Jersey adopted same-sex marriage nearly two years ago, and in the preceding years under civil unions. Before that I helped couples navigate the maze of existing laws to secure assets and protect their relationships. But nationwide marriage creates special circumstances.

The heated rhetoric around the Supreme Court’s June 26 decision allowing same-sex marriages in all 50 states is showing no signs of cooling off. Reactions to the court’s 5-4 decision range from clever analyses to officials in some states declaring they will not honor the ruling.

Same-sex couples in Hoboken and Hudson County have had the right to marry for nearly two years, and for six years before that had civil unions under New Jersey law.

While Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote for the majority that the history of marriage is “one of both continuity and change,” the dissenters clung to what they termed a more “traditional” view of marriage. Only Justice Clarence Thomas specifically mentioned God. But the justices voting in the minority seemed to cling to a Judeo-Christian view of marriage as a religious institution.

 

tumblr_lji56kDMxx1qd0sg1o1_400

 

Source: Bank of America and JPMorgan Chase Agree to Erase Debts From Credit Reports After Bankruptcies – NYTimes.com

The two banks have agreed to update borrowers’ reports within the next three months to reflect that the debts were canceled.

Finally some relief to people caught up in the mortgage crisis.  These Banks, who received billions from the Government are finally doing something to help the poor consumer.  By updating credit reports, people can now afford to buy a new home.  Its about time.

5bn07

Pink concert didn’t harm N.J. girl, judge says

A new case recently decided by the New Jersey Courts deals with the situation where one divorced  parent disagrees with the other about attending cultural events such as a music concert.  While the artist Pink was the subject of this case, you can see how it could be problem with a Miley Cyrus concert or a Wrestlemania event.

This case presents issues involving divorced parents, an eleven year old girl, and rock music. The parties are in the midst of ongoing contested litigation over physical custody of the child, during which the plaintiff-father contends that the defendant-mother abused her parental discretion and made an age-inappropriate decision by taking their daughter to a rock concert performed by the singer, P!nk, on December 11, 2013 at the Prudential Center 1 Pseudonyms and initials are used in place of the actual names of the parties and child at issue. in Newark, New Jersey. 2 For the reasons set forth in this opinion, the court holds the following:

Dupuy: End the war on deadbeat dads

Interesting article from a women whose father was a deadbeat Dad but who is against putting men who do not pay their child support in Jail.  I have on a few occasions fought  for child support payments from delinquent fathers to the point of getting them in handcuffs in front of the Judge.  But invariably they pay a small amount of support and get out of jail.  On one hand, without threat of jail there is a possibility that a person would not take child support seriously, but on the other hand, what good does it do to put a person in jail for not paying his debts.  Nothing is simple.

 

 

I represent a good amount of business in Hoboken, Liquor Licenses, Bar, Restaurants and a big problem with the sale of Hoboken retail store front business is that the Landlord’s rent scares away many buyers.   Hoboken  stores, outside of food places, have a hard time competing with malls and online sites.   I find it very important in negotiating commercial leases to limit the amount of bank rent the Landlord can recovery when a business goes bad.  A lawyer’s job has got to be limiting financial and legal exposure.

More NJ small businesses for sale for less

photo from Hoboken411.com

rent_control
I represent both sides in Hoboken Rent Control disputes.

Many condominium purchasers do not realize that their unit may be subject to rent control.  If you are buying a condo in Hoboken that was not built prior to 1986 it may be controlled by the Hoboken Rent Control Laws.

Opinion

June 27, is Helen Keller day, and I just happened to watch “A Miracle Worker” on TV, which is a great, great movie about how Helen Keller was taught to understand the world by her teacher Ann Sullivan.  Well, the part of Helen Keller was played by Patty Duke and she played such a great part that I looked her up on good ol’ Google and come across another true family tale. 

‘A family law attorney sees and hears a lot of what might be called “ inconvenient truths”  but increasingly our culture, is more and more accepting of the truth.  What was scandalous years ago, is pretty much accepted, except for of course some people who don’t understand that there is no standard, average perfect family, and how  it’s the imperfections that we must all come to love and accept.

image

Sean Astin’s Childhood With Patty Duke

In The Lord of the Rings he cheated death, fought enemies and helped bring a gold ring to its destruction. But before taking on the role as Frodo’s trusted sidekick, Sean Astin survived a struggle of a far more personal sort.

 

Steph%20photo

Just helped out a new business woman in Jersey City /Hoboken with a dog training business, Steph is great with Dogs and Roxy is already doing all sorts of polite things !!!!! The world needs good dogs, give Steph a try, especially those barking dogs in your apartment.

http://goodkarmatraining.com/

ScreenClip

They say you learn new things everyday.  Well as a long time Hoboken resident and Attorney I thought I knew about most things the City Government did.    But there is always something new to learn and that is the wonderful and much needed Hoboken311, which is a website that provides a lot of information about Hoboken Laws and regulations and, which was new to me, you can give detailed requests to the City about problems that need to be corrected.  Me, I complained about a broken sidewalk near my office.  Here is a screenshot of my request:

ScreenClip

I will update this Blog about the response to this request, but I think it is just great that at lease there is a process in place to deal with Citizen requests and suggestions.  Check it out.