Articles Posted in Hoboken Divorce

June 27, is Helen Keller day, and I just happened to watch “A Miracle Worker” on TV, which is a great, great movie about how Helen Keller was taught to understand the world by her teacher Ann Sullivan.  Well, the part of Helen Keller was played by Patty Duke and she played such a great part that I looked her up on good ol’ Google and come across another true family tale. 

‘A family law attorney sees and hears a lot of what might be called “ inconvenient truths”  but increasingly our culture, is more and more accepting of the truth.  What was scandalous years ago, is pretty much accepted, except for of course some people who don’t understand that there is no standard, average perfect family, and how  it’s the imperfections that we must all come to love and accept.

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Sean Astin’s Childhood With Patty Duke

In The Lord of the Rings he cheated death, fought enemies and helped bring a gold ring to its destruction. But before taking on the role as Frodo’s trusted sidekick, Sean Astin survived a struggle of a far more personal sort.

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They say you learn new things everyday.  Well as a long time Hoboken resident and Attorney I thought I knew about most things the City Government did.    But there is always something new to learn and that is the wonderful and much needed Hoboken311, which is a website that provides a lot of information about Hoboken Laws and regulations and, which was new to me, you can give detailed requests to the City about problems that need to be corrected.  Me, I complained about a broken sidewalk near my office.  Here is a screenshot of my request:

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I will update this Blog about the response to this request, but I think it is just great that at lease there is a process in place to deal with Citizen requests and suggestions.  Check it out.

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A writer turned PR director turned stockbroker finds her calling among a deck of tarot cards.

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A Paperless office is great when the Power is on !!!!

  • Not so great when the Power is off.
  • But the Power is back and we are open and ready for business.
  • For all my clients, all your files and papers and documents and emails were not touched by the Storm.  Everything is safe  We moved and protected them. 
  • Our Computer  servers were also protected and we are getting fully online this Sunday Nov. 4th.  Please call the office at 201 656-1000 if we don’t answer just leave a message.  Email is working.
  • We also are implementing a new Text to Office service, since it is clear that Texting is the way most people communicate.   We will be the first Law office that I know of that will have a Text Number for the office.   That should be up and running next week.

Now on to some Legal Advice for all.

  • At this point it is too early to know the exact process and procedure for people trying to recover money for all their damages.
  • Frankly, for most people and most damages, lawyers will probably be more of a problem than a means for a solution.  I have received  many calls already about property damage and my advice is this:
  • Use that Cell Phone Camera and take pictures and more pictures.
  • Take close-ups and far away shots.
  • Use your camera to take pictures of any relevant receipts or things you are replacing or fixing.
  • Make sure the photos are dated.
  • Use some system to take voice notes, like even calling yourself to document your thoughts

And now for some Spiritual Advise.

Break out the Bubbly and have a great time !!!!

Frank Marciano

(this was written short and sweet, more to follow.)

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  In Hoboken a lot a people live together that are not married, and have no written agreement regarding their relationship.  Ranging from craigslist strangers to long term couples with children that have lived together for years without getting married, to same sex partners that never got around to filing for a civil union.  For many years, even without a written agreement, the courts would examine the relationship and take into account oral promises to support from one party to another.

This  promise by one party to a relationship to provide support for the other party to the relationship, either during or after termination of the relationship, is now not binding unless it is in writing and signed by the party making the promise.

As of January 2010. N.J.S.A. 25:1-5 (h) immediately amended the Statute of Frauds to include a provision relating to personal relationships:

Article by Judy Marciano, who is getting so good, that people now say when they see me, oh that’s Frank, the Realtor’s Husband.

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The last census taken in Hoboken showed our population in the year 2000 at 38,577 people. As you know, we just had another census count taken this year and by all accounts our population has increased by at least 10,000 bringing the total to around 50,000 people. This amount does not include people who come here to work or party, it is just the residents. There are a few people in Hoboken who think this increase is a bad thing, but they are a small, but vocal minority, most people are happy that the increase in population has brought more stores, more food places and more activity on the streets. All of which has made Hoboken a safer and more vibrant community.

What many do not know is that in the next 10 -20 years there are plans to increase the residential housing stock to add another 10,000 residents to our city. On the Southern edge of Hoboken, New Jersey Transit put forth a proposal by a planning firm called FXFOWLE to add 6,000 residential units to the City. While that plan was withdrawn for now, a more modest plan for an 18 story high rise building is proposed on the site of the existing bus terminal. Since it is on only 3% of the 54 acres that New Jersey Transit controls you can be sure more development will be proposed on their property.

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Just received the Appellate Court’s Decision in a trial I had in Hudson County Chancery Court that reversed the Trial Court’s judgment. This was an interesting case involving rent control in Hoboken, reformation and rescission of a contract, and many other points of law discussing what happens when rent control issues come to play in the sale of a multi unit building. It also is a great example of how slow the legal process is and how Judges can be wrong and how the system does allow a person to appeal and overturn a judges decision. For those that are not attorneys it must not make that much sense that decisions and opinions at the trial level are not always correct. In this case the Trial judge is one of the smartest and fairest judges that I have appeared in front of, but for whatever reason he saw the case as presented in way that my client thought was incorrect, so we appealed, and thankfully three appellate court judges took the time and effort to write a 19 page opinion that reversed the trial judge’s judgment so that my client won his case.

Erin Weed is a client and friend and an extraordinary person who has created a life dedicated to more than just herself. Go to her website to learn about simple strategies for self defense. On her product page you can find items as a pepper spray key chain, mini window alarm, door stop alarm and other items that will give you a slight edge in case of assault or burglary. From the personal experience of clients and friends I know that Hoboken is not as safe as it seems. Lurking around this town are bad people just looking for that moment of vulnerability. And for all those women who travel for work and find themselves alone in hotels, the techniques and devices that GFB offer can literally be the difference between life and death.

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Over the past few weeks I have met with over 10 separate people inquiring about getting a divorce. Many had tried couple counseling, some had kept all their problems to themselves, others were just finalizing a long time separation. However, what may sound self evident to some people, was newly connected in my mind, that is, divorce and depression are interrelated. Many people think that depression is not a real or significant factor in day to day life, but nothing could be further from the truth. Depression is not a couple thing, it is a deeply personal issue that is not readily apparent from a person’s actions. An easy way to deal with depression is to blame those around us, and often the easiest person to blame is the person closest to you. So, if you feel that you love your spouse but still want to get a divorce (a common situation), think about going to a doctor and talking about your feelings, maybe you can save your marriage and in the process help yourself.

There are plenty of websites about depression on the web and how to deal with getting a hold of your life. I know that people often have a miraculous recovery from medication and you should discuss that option with your doctor. Depression is often masked by success, (Heath Ledger, Owen Wilson, Craig Ferguson, Brittany Spears to name a few). In the above monologue from late night host Craig Ferguson he talks about his battle with alcoholism, (a symptom of depression) and gives one of the most touching talks about people in distress. It may not be directly on point but I just love his attitude.